Aggressive child Behaviour
(One day, Shivam and his neighbourhood children went to play cricket in a nearby park. Everyone reached there except Shivam. Meanwhile, all of them started playing. Unfortunately, this match did not go well for long. Chaos developed in between the match and it later became a matter of discussion in their locality).
- Rakesh was batting and others were lined up waiting for their respective turns. But as soon as he joined, he was insistent on taking over the batting. This demand did not go well with other players and they were reluctant to give him the chance.
-Ishaan was about to do bowling meanwhile Shivam intervened.
Shivam: Hey! Why you all started playing without me? I am here now. Give me the bat. I will take up the batting.
Deepak: You can take it when your turn comes. You can be the wicketkeeper till then.
Shivam: No, I will do batting. I am not interested in anything else.
Deepak: That’s not fair! Have some patience.
Shivam: I am not asking you. So, keep your mouth shut.
Rakesh: You have the tendency to spoil the fun. If you are late, so you have to wait. Why do you always keep crying for everything?
Ishaan: Why don’t you sit and enjoy the game?
Rakesh: Yes! Ishaan is right and I am not going to leave the bat.
Shivam: I will tell this to my father if you will not let me play then he will see you all!
Rakesh: OK. Go and tell him. But if you still have a problem, then get a bat for yourself and play alone. None of us will play with you.
Shivam: How dare you. (He started snatching the bat from Rakesh). Now I will see how will I not get to play.
(Meanwhile, Shivam got hold of the bat and pushed Rakesh strongly and he was injured because of this fight. The whole play was paused due to these arguments. Cricket and arguments came to an end after this.)
Shivam left that place silently. On the other hand, everyone was concerned for Rakesh. They took him home and narrated the whole incident to his mother. She was undeniably upset but she maintained her composure. She did Rakesh's first aid and waited for her husband to return.
After a small conversation between Rakesh's parents, they decided to talk to Shivam's parents about the incidence. They invited them for tea but they didn't turn up as Shivam's father was out of the city. This continued for a few more days. As the matter was serious, Rakesh’s parents frequently tried to contact them.
One day they went to his home to talk to his parents. They saw that Shivam’s parents were narrating the manipulated story to the neighbours. They were shocked to witness the situation. and found it awkward. When Shivam’s parents saw both of them coming, they tried to ignore them and disperse the crowd.
Rakesh’s father: (Interruptingly) We are here to talk something important.
Shivam’s father: We will have the conversation later. I have to leave for an urgent meeting.
Rakesh’s father: (insisting) It is about our kids, their safety and the future. You must be aware of the incident that happened a week ago…
Shivam’s father: (rudely) Oh! So, you are here to blame my son?
Rakesh’s father: (humbly) No, but we cannot ignore the fact that my son got injured amidst those arguments.
Shivam’s father was not showing his concern but Rakesh’s father requested him to at least understand the situation and work towards the solution in order to avoid any casualties in future and then he left from the spot.
Now, Shivam was quite alone because no one was accepting him as a friend or made him a part of their peer group. He was not performing good academically. So, teachers frequently punished him for not doing his homework. His classmates used to tease him. As a result, Shivam used to react in aggression and indulged in fights. His parents were called for the Parents Teachers Meetings (PTMs) but they never turned up always owing to some reason or the other.
Shivam’s mother was observing his behaviour for quite long. She was concerned for her son. So, she decided to look into the matter. She started giving him more time and tolerated his utmost aggression. But, the main cause of her concern was that he was just ten years old. It was neither good for him as a person, nor for his future. So, she decided to talk to Shivam and her husband.
Mother: (lovingly) What would you like to have for breakfast?
Shivam: Poison.
Mother: (teasing) Shall I mix it in milk or the jam?
Shivam: (Irritatingly) Why will you do these efforts. I will have it anyway.
Mother: Are you angry with your mother?
Shivam: UhhhhHuhhhhhhh!!
Mother: Then why are you not talking to me?
Shivam: I am a bad boy. I harm everyone and no one likes me then why would you like to talk to me.
His mother starts tickling him, laughs with him and he giggles. She hugs him tight and both share a light moment. The mother realizes that this is what he needs the most in this age.
(She talked to her husband when he is at home).
Mother: Do you know, after a long time Shivam seemed happy again.
Father: Why? What happened?
Mother: Shivam is our child and I think we should give him more attention. We should not hide his mistakes or punish him. All we have to do is to explain him, let him know the real difference between right and wrong. He needs quality time with us. We should not make him feel like a seed which we had sown but forgot to cherish.
Father: Yes! You are right. I was so busy in earning money to secure his future that I forgot to think about my son whom I am doing all this for.
Mother: Yes. This is a lesson for all such parents who either try to run from their responsibilities or get too busy in their own life to pay attention to the issues that are actually important.
Father: That day I was so rude to Rakesh’s father, now I am feeling guilty. I will never repeat the same mistake and will seek his apology.
He goes to Shivam. He plays video games with him and both of them enjoy. Shivam’s mother goes to buy some comics and clothes for him.
-Written by Himanshi Tripathi
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